A recent debate on a well-known news site lasted, for me, all of ten minutes. In between cleaning house, I would hear the ding on my phone and check for replies on Facebook. I kept hoping for a pro-life person to help me convince the others of the value of life in the womb. Instead, I conversed against a pack of wolves.
Fifteen minutes later, I ignored the impulse to keep checking the replies.
This is difficult.
It feels like I am a quitter. That I am taking the easy way out by not posting links and taking the argument to the bitter end.
Experience has taught me to ignore the part of me that wants to win an argument. I want to win souls to the Lord; not arguments.
The key to a good argument is to never name call, never take their bate, and always ask questions. If things get too emotional, walk away. Come from a place of love, not from a place of conquest. Check your motivation.
The beauty of the internet is how an immediate reply is not necessary. Walk away and reply later when you can be objective in the situation.
In the aforementioned situation, no one gave me facts or links (at least not in the five replies filled with labels and cuss words anyway). I challenged them to look at the resources online if they really wanted to know that what I was telling them was true.
That’s when I “walked away.”
When an argument becomes abrasive and a shouting match, end strong and calm. Walk away and don’t muddy up the already well-argued replies with more words. Less is better in this case. Let the words ruminate in their minds. Pray it takes root.
Words can be like a cup of tea. For the tea to have full flavor, it must steep in hot water for a while.